While we were waiting to be matched, I wanted constant updates about our “status.” I wanted to know that a placing mother would be looking at our profile and would be choosing us soon. It took a lot of restraint for me to limit my calls to once a month for a status check. I wanted to be the “squeaky wheel” without driving the social worker crazy.

The social worker was usually vague about status updates. There were always “a few” placing mothers early in the process. She purposely did not tell us when a placing mother... more

My husband and I just found out that we were NOT selected for the sibling group we were SO hoping we'd get matched with...the one we mentioned in a prior post that actually SAID he wanted us to adopt him.

I will never know the reason why, and it just KILLS me wondering what the chosen family had, knew, etc better than me.

As a hopeful adoptive parent, this is the worst thing you can hear. It's not like looking at Adopt US Kids and the child you've been dreaming of before you're ready to start the process gets matched.

This is real. The chance was real. The... more