As a writer, I see the power in words. Before we adopted our son I knew that certain words had power - both positive and negative - in the adoption community, even though I didn't really "get" how some words could be offensive. They were just words, after all.

Sticks and stones can't break my bones but words will never hurt me, right?

Now that I'm part of that community I understand much better how words can be painful, or disrespectful, or diminishing to a relationship. A relationship that for some families was fought so hard for, and was so hard-won.

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The title of this blog entry refers as much to me as to you, my wonderful readers. For I have inherited this blog with no real plan as to how to proceed. My other blog, Adopt from Russia, seems to have a certain structure to it. After all, I've been through it. But this blog? No structure. No plan. Just some hope and a computer screen.

Yesterday I wrote about how my family came to adoption. Now I want to write about you. I'm going to make some assumptions about you, many of which I know won't fit everyone, but many of which will... more

I just have to link and share this thread from adoption.com that I am reading.

If you're not a member of adoption.com, I highly encourage you to join. It is an excellent resource for anyone from the adoption triad.

Anyway...a member posted the question "Should Adoption Be Limited to Couples With Infertility?"

In the post, the very first comment got to me...it is here, please click the link above for the rest of the post....ok...here's the... more