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As you prepare to adopt, you have likely researched the importance of bonding with your child. In fact, that’s an important thing whether you give birth or adopt your child. Bonding is of vital importance. There are many theories as to how to go about such a thing, especially with a newborn. One of the easiest ways, in my experience, is to employ the use of a sling.
No, I’m not talking about putting your arm in a sling. I’m talking about a baby carrier, something that holds your baby close to you without your baby being in your arms. There have been those who have argued that using a sling isn’t as close a bond as holding your baby all the time. I will admit that holding your baby, looking into your baby’s eyes and interacting in that very-close manner are equally important. However, as a mother of two children, I know that babies make laundry that still needs to be finished. Things need to be done. Other children need to be tended to. Life continues to move forward!
Slings really help with that aspect of life. It’s tough to be glued to a chair, unable to interact or go out or help around the house. With a sling, you just put your baby close to your heart and hit the road. Most of the time, the youngest of babies will go to sleep at this point, feeling safe and secure as they did in their birth mother’s womb. As they get older and more alert, they’ll watch what’s going on and pull your hair or things off shelves. (Parenthood is so wonderful!)
So how do you go about finding a sling? There are many different kinds, much to the dismay of a new “babywearing” mama. Pouch slings are exactly what they sound like: you wear a pouch sling across one shoulder diagonally to your other hip, placing the baby in the little pouch of material. Ring slings can also be worn diagonally but also allow for other carries and positions. A variety of upright carriers exist, though you should do your research on the best position for a baby to ride. (They should never “dangle” from their crotch as it is bad for their hip flexors.) Look into Mei Tai (may-tie) carriers or other ergonomic ones that are good for your baby and for you. Finally, wraps are huge in other countries. It’s basically a big piece of fabric that you wrap around you and your child. Very versatile and often available in great colors and patterns.
The learning curve with a sling or carrier will vary from style to style. They are, however, quite easy to manage once you find one that works for you and your baby. The best part is, of course, that you can keep your child close to you while still getting things done around the house… and even out of the house! Consider purchasing one or two ahead of time so that you’re ready to go, literally, when the phone rings!
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Photo Credit: 2007, Jenna Hatfield. (He was two weeks old. Aww.)
Slings Rock!!!
Yes, slings do rock! Jack wasn’t so hot on them until he could sit on my hip though. He preferred the Baby Bjorn. All kids are different, and there are thousands of babywearing options. Slings are among the easiest to use and most universal.
I had to comment as we have just purchased an Ergo in preparation for our number 2 hopefully arriving soon. I wish I had it for our 1st little one.