When you do believe an adopted child should be told about his adoption? Do you believe that an adopted child should be told at all? These are questions that you will need to work through as part of the home study process.

I found it overwhelming to have to make these kinds of decisions before I was even a parent, but I am so grateful that we covered this topic as part of our home study. By the time my son came along, I knew exactly how I planned to cover the topic of adoption. I felt well equipped to handle my son's questions.

Conventional wisdom used to say that children did not need to be told about their adoption. However, most people today would say that adopted children deserve to know this information about themselves. Also, the experiences of adoptees has shown that growing up knowing about the adoption is far less damaging than having this huge emotional time bomb derail an adoptee’s life.

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I have chosen to tell my son about his adoption from the very beginning. As a result, he has always known this fact about his life. As he grows older, he is beginning to understand what adoption means on a deeper level, but the word “adoption” has always been a part of his life. There was never a “moment” when he “found out” about his adoption because he has always known. I have never lied to him and pretended that he grew in my body.

If you do not plan to be open about your child’s adoption from the beginning, I suggest doing some research about how best to approach the topic with your child at whatever age you choose to reveal this information. Then, when you discuss this topic during your home study, you can discuss why you want to wait and share the research you have done to minimize the impact of this information on your child.

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