Comments on: Does your family accept your decision to adopt? http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to Provides adoption information and guidance for people who are hoping to adopt a child domestically or internationally. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:14:15 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: miriam http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-568 miriam Tue, 17 Apr 2007 19:26:38 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-568 My friends and family think it's wierd that we have no known fertility problems: we just want to adopt. <br /> <br /> We've been treated to stories of adoptions gone south, adoptions taking years and $$$$$$$$$, adopted kids developing medical problems (because bios don't??), and we haven't even started to talk about race. But in the end, I love that you have pointed out here that most of them are acting out of love for us. My friends and family think it’s wierd that we have no known fertility problems: we just want to adopt.

We’ve been treated to stories of adoptions gone south, adoptions taking years and $$$$$$$$$, adopted kids developing medical problems (because bios don’t??), and we haven’t even started to talk about race. But in the end, I love that you have pointed out here that most of them are acting out of love for us.

]]> By: sam http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-567 sam Sun, 13 Aug 2006 11:50:15 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-567 My wife and I are starting the adoption process and while most people are supportive, one 'close' friend flat out told me that it's a stupid idea because 'those kids' are messed up from the get go and all I'm going to do is screw up my family. My wife and I are starting the adoption process and while most people are supportive, one ‘close’ friend flat out told me that it’s a stupid idea because ‘those kids’ are messed up from the get go and all I’m going to do is screw up my family.

]]> By: jonesmm http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-566 jonesmm Tue, 18 Jul 2006 18:31:31 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-566 We decided to adopt after I had two tubal pregnancies. I never was against adoption so we went through the process and after 10 years we have gradually adopted 5 children from the same birth mother. The negative came from the people I work with. Its like they are the bastard children and in their minds they don't exist. We have had so much joy from these kids. If I could have had them I would have. They are loved and I could not imagine life without them. I think keeping these kids together to grow up together has been our priority. They will always have each other and will never have to look for who they are. We decided to adopt after I had two tubal pregnancies. I never was against adoption so we went through the process and after 10 years we have gradually adopted 5 children from the same birth mother. The negative came from the people I work with. Its like they are the bastard children and in their minds they don’t exist. We have had so much joy from these kids. If I could have had them I would have. They are loved and I could not imagine life without them. I think keeping these kids together to grow up together has been our priority. They will always have each other and will never have to look for who they are.

]]> By: Adrienne Bashista http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-565 Adrienne Bashista Tue, 18 Jul 2006 11:14:51 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-565 I am 37 years old...so I figure I have 'til my mid 50s. I am also married to a younger man...he's 36. Ha. He's the sticking point. If it's not in the next 2 years then it's not to be - but who knows what life will bring? Never say never. I am 37 years old…so I figure I have ’til my mid 50s. I am also married to a younger man…he’s 36. Ha. He’s the sticking point. If it’s not in the next 2 years then it’s not to be – but who knows what life will bring? Never say never.

]]> By: Michelle Vandepas http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-564 Michelle Vandepas Tue, 18 Jul 2006 00:17:04 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-564 Ok, as an older mom, I have to ask, Twenty years from when? Are you Twenty-five, thirty thirty five?......One of our bloggers is almost 55 I think!<br /> <br /> Thanks for the plug for our blog! Ok, as an older mom, I have to ask, Twenty years from when? Are you Twenty-five, thirty thirty five?……One of our bloggers is almost 55 I think!

Thanks for the plug for our blog!

]]> By: Heather http://hoping.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to/comment-page-1#comment-563 Heather Mon, 17 Jul 2006 23:43:09 +0000 http://hoping-to-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/07/17/does-your-family-accept-your-decision-to#comment-563 Two comments: First off, during our first adoption our agency discussed that often times family members that you thought would be supportive of your decision to adopt will not be at first. They said to keep in mind that you know all of the ins and outs with what you had to go through with infertility and came to the decision to adopt after accepting that you were not going to be able to get pregnant. Family members often need that time to work through that loss as well. When we finally told my family we were adopting, we did not get the immediate support I had thought we'd get. After asking lot's of questions and with a bit of time, they became our biggest cheerleaders. It made sense that of course they will feel some sense of loss initially just as we had. <br /> <br /> Second, I have had situations with friends who had fertility treatments going on 6 years and would not adopt. It got to the point that "maybe" they'd consider it. You summed up how I felt-I wanted to ask, maybe shout "Why?". It was interesting that they could not believe that we would stop in seeking fertility treatments when we did-like that was the oddest thing they had ever heard of.<br /> <br /> Two comments: First off, during our first adoption our agency discussed that often times family members that you thought would be supportive of your decision to adopt will not be at first. They said to keep in mind that you know all of the ins and outs with what you had to go through with infertility and came to the decision to adopt after accepting that you were not going to be able to get pregnant. Family members often need that time to work through that loss as well. When we finally told my family we were adopting, we did not get the immediate support I had thought we’d get. After asking lot’s of questions and with a bit of time, they became our biggest cheerleaders. It made sense that of course they will feel some sense of loss initially just as we had.

Second, I have had situations with friends who had fertility treatments going on 6 years and would not adopt. It got to the point that “maybe” they’d consider it. You summed up how I felt-I wanted to ask, maybe shout “Why?”. It was interesting that they could not believe that we would stop in seeking fertility treatments when we did-like that was the oddest thing they had ever heard of.

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