As you can see from the "Related Topics" at the bottom of this post, naming a child who joins your family through international adoption is a hot topic in the adoption community. Some people believe that the child should have an ethnic name that reflects his heritage; other people believe that a child should have an Americanized name so that he will blend into American society.

Which point of view is correct? I do not believe that there is a right or wrong answer here, so you need to do what is best for your family. Each side of the issue makes some very valid points.

Ethnic Names

Some people argue that a child’s ethnic name is one of the only ties that a child has left to his country of birth. Since most international adoptions are closed, the child’s name might also be the only tie that the child has to his birthparents. Proponents of ethnic names say that this tie should not be severed.

Additionally, many children who join a family through international adoption are not familiar with the English language. Everything is new – a new country, new parents, a new home, and a new language. Taking away the child’s name completely removes everything that is familiar to the child.

Americanized Names

Others argue that children who were adopted internationally should have Americanized names. Some names are unpronounceable in English, which sets up the child to have to pronounce and spell his name throughout his lifetime. The child will never be able to purchase pre-made personalized items, such as cups or key rings, when his friends do. The child might be teased for his unusual name.

As an adult, the adoptee’s resume will always reflect his ethnic heritage, even if he is as “American” as any other applicant. The cruel reality is that prejudice still exists, and an ethnic name has the potential of removing an applicant from consideration before the employer has even met him.

Is there a “right” or “wrong” way to name your child who was adopted from another country? I don’t believe so. Both groups make valid points, but, ultimately, you need to choose a name that best fits your family.

Related Topics:

• The Name Game




• Baby Naming Trends: The Angelina Effect




• Naming Your Child, Part One




• Naming Your Child, Part Two