I have a dear, dear, dear friend who is the father of two transracially adopted children.

The wife of this dear, dear, dear friend makes much effort to expose her kids and involve her kids in African American culture (her kids are biracial/African American and Caucasian). She has worked with local black churches and has made many friends and acquaintances there, she goes to get-together of a local group of Women of Color, she buys them books that emphasize African American heroes and achievers, she makes effort to seek out friends for her children who are non-white, and takes both her kids to the "black" beauty salon and barber shops around here (I don't know how it is in the rest of the country but here in North Cackalacky things are fairly well segregated in terms of hair and religion...)

Her husband, bless his heart, does none of the above. Race doesn't matter, he says. I love these kids no matter what their race.

The second part I am sure is the truth. The first, not so much.

So, what to do with this guy? I'm not his wife, so obviously I don't have a cock in this fight, but I can't help but wonder what's going to happen when his kids get older. Will they appreciate the connections their mom has made? Will they reject their dad? Will it have made any difference at all? Will it maybe not matter, as their dad has suggested?

I know he loves them. I know he's colorblind, because I know how and who he deals with. But I also know the rest of the world isn't. Our community is quite diverse so it's not like they're raising black children in an all-white community...but will that make things harder or easier for the kids?

Thoughts?