I'm starting a new category in this blog: The Reluctant Spouse.

I have one, that's why.

I've posted about it before. Here, and here.

He has nothing against adopting another child, he says. Except for the money factor. And we're not talking the cost of adoption, either. Thanks to some lovely folks who participated in my unscientific poll I've shown him that private domestic adoption (which is probably what we'd do) is not the bank-breaker that we'd originally thought.

It's the other costs:

3 years of pre-k = $18,000
clothes, food, etc, = I dunno, a lot.
me not working full time = -45,000/year
college: yikes!
prescriptions for antidepressants... (ha ha, just kidding!)

Ouch.

So I get it! I really, really get it. That's why I've purchased Powerball tickets (drawing Weds. night - cross your fingers for me!).


Here's a great discussion from Adoptive Families about reluctant spouses. And here's an essay by Jill Smolowe about having a reluctant spouse.

Is your spouse reluctant? What are the issues you're dealing with?