If you are reading my blog today, you are probably looking for some emotional support. I remember how it felt to have empty arms on Christmas Day when I desperately wanted to be a mother. Even those of you who are waiting to adopt a sibling for your child still know pain, even if your arms are not empty.

Some of you are waiting to adopt children who are living in a foster home or an orphanage. I can only imagine how your heart yearns to be with your child and how it must break knowing that your child is having to spend his holiday without his forever family. I hope it helps to know that you will likely spend your next Christmas together.

Others are waiting for an expecting mother to select them to parent an unborn baby. You might have already spent years trying to become a parent, maybe even after months or years of fertility treatments. You hoped that choosing to adopt would spare you from spending another Christmas with arms aching to hold your own child, but that was not to be.

Still others have already been matched with an expecting mother, and they are thinking about so many things at once. They are wondering if the expecting mother will still feel the same way about placing her baby for adoption after the baby is born. They are feeling sad that the expecting mother is having to go through a holiday pregnant with a baby who she does not plan to parent. They are also trying hard not to think about whether they will ultimately need to return the baby gifts they received under the Christmas tree today.

Waiting to adopt is complicated during the holiday season. So many emotions and questions swirl through your head, and you might be wondering if the entire process is worth all of this pain and anxiety. It is. Every single tear I ever cried was worth having my son in my life today.

The Christmas after my son was born was the best I ever experienced. This will happen for you, too. When the time is right, the right child will join your home, and your arms will no longer be empty.

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